The thing is, if I have sex with a guy and he doesn’t immediately fall in love with me, I’m annoyed. If I have sex with a guy and he does immediately fall in love with me, I’m annoyed. Tell me how I am meant to win here? I realised that this was because I craved the validation of guys telling me: “You’re the only one I can really open up to.” Until I registered the fact that I was only there to make them feel special and solve all their problems.
I remember the first place I moved out to. It was still, serene, as all plodding outskirts of farm properties are. I thought it was apt that I resided next to a cemetery. It was the attractive part, curated with manicured grass and linear rows of granite headstones. At day, you were meant to grieve; at night, you were meant to avoid it.
“It is still frowned upon for women to have multiple sexual partners – but there are also a plethora of contradictions that come with it.”
It’s hard to notice how many times a day society reminds you of sex’s importance until someone says you might never be able to have it.
The world needs emotional women – but the fear of failure can often hold them back.
One activist recounts her experiences with an insatiable anger against the world, the burnout that followed and why she finally decided to give up.
My mouse hovered over White. Then Black. Other?
Do you identify as coming from a diverse cultural background: Yes ( ) No ( )
Being a feminist and working in the fitness industry often feels like something of an oxymoron.
The doctor doesn’t eye me suspiciously before printing the prescriptions like I expected he would; he just flat-out refuses while staring at the screen. He says he wants a letter from my previous GP. How do I explain that I don’t have a GP? How can I detail my thirteen-year career as a consumer of mental health service – from Canberra to Newcastle, Sydney to Cooma, and back to Canberra.
Instead of looking for strength, what I wish someone had told me is to find a way to be content again and to just do the thing that makes you happy. Strength can wait.