CW: sexual assault, sexual harassment, victim-blaming A Dear John letter to her abuser that explores the difficulty of saying “me too.
Dr Skye Saunders is Australia’s foremost expert on sexual harassment in rural communities.
“I prepared myself for the occasional ‘darling’, but the infantilism, image control, emotional manipulation and sexualisation that clouded my six months went much further than ‘darling’.”
“Your work friends will say ‘fuck we got absolutely raped today’ when you have a busy shift. Sometimes the other women will say it too. You will privately attribute this to internalised misogyny and the patriarchal bargain.”
“If Oscar Wilde believed that life imitates art far more than art imitates life, then activist action used in existing movements can be applied in the movie business.”
This is a letter to the students of ANU, to all activists, survivors and supporters, to all ANU staff, educators and residential college staff, and to the staff that hold fancy titles. This is to anyone who chooses to read this letter.
“What this implies is that real boys and men physically and emotionally abuse the girls and women that they are attracted to.”