The thing is, if I have sex with a guy and he doesn’t immediately fall in love with me, I’m annoyed. If I have sex with a guy and he does immediately fall in love with me, I’m annoyed. Tell me how I am meant to win here? I realised that this was because I craved the validation of guys telling me: “You’re the only one I can really open up to.” Until I registered the fact that I was only there to make them feel special and solve all their problems.
Hoeing: The Therapy No One Talks About
“It is still frowned upon for women to have multiple sexual partners – but there are also a plethora of contradictions that come with it.”
The Birds, The Bees, and BDSM
Some wildly juicy stories emerged from the Fifty Shades phenomenon, saucy and embarrassing alike. But what really left me gasping, so to speak, was the lack of education, shared both by the author, E. L James, and my friends, about safe BDSM practices.
I Had Vaginismus
It’s hard to notice how many times a day society reminds you of sex’s importance until someone says you might never be able to have it.
Area Non-Binary Person Loses Their Shit
In an unprecedented and entirely unpredictable move, a local individual, [REDACTED], has officially lost their goddamn mind when it comes to cis people telling them what’s what. “Look,” they said in an exclusive interview with Bossy, “the next person who tries to tell me my pronouns aren’t grammatically correct is getting a dictionary to the jaw!”
The Reframing of Sex
“Every time a man cums in me / He leaves a part of his soul.”
I Feel You
“I feel you in me / My insides do not twist / like they did when / I felt him …”
“He taught me how the deranged make love …”
My Friend: The PhD Grad and Trans Escort
“My research confirmed what my friend had heard from other trans escorts: there is a huge sexual demand for transgender women.”
Sex That (Doesn’t) Matter: Our Discursive Limits on Sex
“I find our status quo definition of sex not only incredibly narrow, exclusive and heterosexual, but also devaluing of other forms of sexual expression and intimacy that comprise the whole experience that is actually sex – foreplay, oral sex and fingering (to name a few).”